Going Part Time vs Staying Full Time

Ok bloggy buddies, I need a bit of advice from you guys today..Please help me! :)

As you may know, my son starts Kindergarten in August (which makes me sad, my babys growing up) which also means less money being spent on daycare but also more chances for me to be more involved at school, PTO, etc.

Right now I work Full Time, any day of the week, but I'm mostly off on weekends. My work week ranges from 40-60 hours per week and hours anywhere from 8:15am to 7:30pm - so I dont get a whole lot of time in the mornings or evenings to spend time with Jay. In the fall he will be starting class at 7:45am and get out at 11:30pm - right now I'll be taking him to school every morning and he will be riding the bus to daycare after. I will save around $4-500 per month right there on Daycare costs alone!

So my dilema is this: Should I stay Full Time or go down to Part Time

Pros for Full Time:
Spending less in childcare means I can put more into Savings.
More money means new car, boob job, wedding in the future, down payment on house, buy nice things, etc.
Having almost every weekend off
Cheaper Health Insurance for Jay & I
Higher 401k
More back in income tax return in Feb/Mar
Extra Spending money for eating out, movies, name brand clothes, toys, etc.

Cons for Full Time:
Long hours & long weeks - I'm exhausted when I get home.
Due to being tired, I dont cook meals or do much in regards to activities with Jay.
Not being able to attend Jay's class parties, getting him involved in Karate/Sports/Etc.
Stress - and lots of it - due to working in Retail Sales

Pros for Part Time:

More Time with Jay

Opportunity to go back to school Part Time

Can be the room mom/soccer mom I've always wanted to be

Less Stress from work

Chance to learn to cook homemade meals for my Family

Pay even less in child care - put him after school care 3 days instead of 5

Less Money spent on Gas

Healthier for me ie. Less Fast food or "quick" meals, less stress, more time to exercise

Chance to go back to school

Cons for Part Time:

Less money. Period.

Pay more in health benefits

Lose some Vacation Time

Added stress of Money Management

Fear of boredom

Spending more money on Extracirriculars for Jay & Myself
Working almost EVERY weekend

So this is where I currently stand - it can both ways. What is your honest opinion and advice on my issue? Should I go part time or stay full time? My heart is telling me to go PT but my mind is telling me to stay FT for the money.

HELP!

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How do you stay confident?

Ladies, I am facing some demons right now. Some demons within myself that I am having a tough time kicking them out.

2 years ago I was the most confident person you would meet - very arrogant - I knew I was pretty and I knew I could have any thing I wanted without working super hard to get it.

Over the past couple of months all my confidence has disappeared - right out the window - bye bye confidence. I used to be so comfortable in my skin. I would slap on that bikini and flaunt what the good Lord blessed me with. (Stretch marks and all).

Now I just shrivel at the thought of even wearing shorts because I feel like my thighs are to big or my muffin top is to fluffy today and my hair just looks like I woke up (even after working on it for 2 hours). I find myself wearing more Tshirts and baggier pants instead of cute tops and skinny legs. I wear more tennis shoes than I do heels. I just don't feel pretty.

I don't know what happened - I used to have more confidence than I knew what to do with. My sales numbers at work were great now I struggle every month to come close to my goals. I constantly find myself looking in the mirror rather than just assuming I looked good.

If I see a great looking girl on my boyfriends facebook friends list I instantly become jealous where before I used to have the "F*** him" attitude and the "there are tons of guys in line to date me" response. But now - I grow with anger and I yell at him all because of my insecurities.

How do you ladies handle this? Or do you handle it? Are you in the same boat as me? I am having a super hard time right now and I am looking for all opinions and advice. I want to get the old Meg back - but I'm starting to think she's to far gone to bring home.

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